Stephenson Family Ties

He would have passed a pleasant life of it,
in despite of the Devil and all his works, if
his path had not been crossed by a being
that causes more perplexity to mortal man
than ghosts, goblins, and the whole race
of witches put together, and it was...a woman.
from: Legend of Sleepy Hollow
by: Washington Irving

My Builder and I had an interesting conversation last night while dining at a local BBQ restaurant.
While we shared a tasty meal of ribs and brisket, the Magic and the Hawks were playing a game on the tv that hung in the corner of the establishment. I know NOTHING about these two teams...but it took only a few seconds to surmise that the Magic was stomping all over Atlanta!! Nothing was going Atlanta's way. I also quickly observed that the Magic seemed to have a one man band go'in on. There was a star player- what I would call a ball hog.
As I swiveled my head around to glance again at the action...there he was again-standing at the free throw line, taking some foul shots. I took a double look, and before I even asked my Builder what he name was, I exclaimed, " My , my, that's a mighty fine body!!"
(Note: somehow, some way I have 'conditioned' my Builder with this kind of talk. It has been going on for years and years, and I think its fairly safe to say that my Builder is secure in his manhood, and how I feel about him.) I have never really had to curb my tongue or thoughts, knowing that my love for my Builder is deep, unshakable and never based on how big his 'guns' are.
Anyway...My Builder knew who this player was...right away. His name is Dwight Howard. And my Builder also made some witty comeback about how it is for men and how they could NEVER make that type of comment about a woman.
I looked him square in the eye and questioned him as to why he felt he couldnt? ( I happen to know that he finds Olivia Newton John to be a hotty.) I wondered why he didnt feel he could reciprocate like feelings about some super human, airbrushed, Hollywood bimbo? His honest reply, "Men are different that way." (dah) "When men look at a women, it a whole different experience." (duh) "Thats just the way we are built and its our constant battle to keep it in restraint." (duh)
I get this...I've raised 4 sons...I get this.
Bless my man!!
And as I continued to enjoy watching this beautiful piece of man-flesh known to the world and his mother as Dwight, I explained again to my hubby that when I look at a man like this, I am filled with admiration- not lust- only for what that perfect physic represents. The hours or work outs, the blood, sweat and tears that it takes to 'produce' such a specimen. (plus good genetics too)
So here's to good old fashioned man watching, ladies!!! And to realizing once again that when a woman is oogled at .... Thats Not What they are THinking!!!
I like my world better!!!